Online dating seeing other people
Looking back, this only made my dates uncomfortable and left me looking either weird or desperate.
When I had multiple dates lined up, I found myself very relaxed on each date.
All of these dates were very stressful because of the time being I devoted just to get to the date.
When the stress lessened, I stopped paying attention to myself and started paying attention to my date.
Breaking off communication with someone I had nothing in common with, or at least who was missing qualities I was looking for, became easy.
Honestly, it was often a relief because there were more first dates waiting and I would be able to remove someone from my list of potentials.
Using my original method for dating (one girl a month at best), my odds of meeting that special someone were very low and theoretically it would have taken a long time to meet her. The issue here is the length of time only identifies part of the problem as it assumes that the “match” won’t move on to something else: a new job that she wouldn’t have been taken had she been in a relationship, settling for someone just to not be alone, etc.
Taking too long doesn’t just mean you’re looking longer. I believe that dating many people improves your chances in two ways: you have a better chance of meeting someone who you are looking for but you also potentially avoid missing out on someone who may move on if you never get around to meeting in the first place.